Permissionary, Storybreaker, & Expansion Kinkster
My mission to cultivate a living ecosystem of love
What’s my mission? What impact do I desire to have?
Parts of me have known the answer to this question for many years. Other parts of me, before now, haven’t been ready to fully own and orient my life towards a specific purpose - I was learning, healing, integrating. I still am. I always will be. And also - I am ready.
My mission is threefold. To show up in the world and in my interactions as a:
Permissionary: empowering permission to deeply love our authentic selves
Storybreaker: compassionately questioning suppressive “shoulds”
Expansion Kinkster: encouraging pleasure in learning from discomfort
I’ve spent most of the last decade deconstructing stories from my own life. Stories that told me I was wretched to the core and unworthy of love, that there is only one right way to do relationships, that to exist on earth I must play a “productive” role as a cog in the ever-expanding machine of human domination over this planet, that if I don’t hoard and save I’ll face devastation and destitution, that death is something to be feared, and that laughter, delight, and expression are audacious and unwelcome.
These and other stories held me captive to fears and “shoulds” and shame. They led me to hide who I am, even from myself; to squeeze into molds and roles that I did not fit; and to manipulate others because I didn’t know I was allowed to express my wants and needs. Unpacking these stories and learning to discover and write new ones has often been very uncomfortable, at times even painful. It’s shaken the very roots of my identity and perception of the world, but I’ve learned to welcome much of that discomfort as it is often a clue that there may be a wound that needs loving healing or a story that could be reshaped. Turning each new page has brought me into richer harmony with myself and the living systems I am a part of.
I’ve learned that I can only love others to the degree I love myself, and that I experience true peace and joy when I am steeped in love with myself and others - a symmetrical ecosystem of love! I’ve been on a journey of unfolding knowledge and love of me that spirals out into genuine blossoming love towards others. I am passionate about encouraging people to break through the blocks and heal the wounds that are choking them off from deep love, sustained peace, and grounded joy.
This platform, along with my work towards my vision - which I’ll share more on soon - is a part of me seeking to live out my mission. I'll be sharing stories, conversations, and noticings from my own life as I help craft aligned stories of meaning, love, and authenticity. I invite you to join me, and - if aligned and able - to lend your support by sharing resources and networks. Let’s do this together!